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11:18 am
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Heads up.
The individual referred to as "MissThang" in previous events is now on FetLife as "ElenaMcIvor".
File under 'Amusing':
She is "disturbed" someone has been 'lying about her' to "make up with their SO".
File under 'Not At All Amusing':
Pass the warning - she breaks her toys. And doesn't care.
Partial documentation in regards to responsibility/attitude available on my twitter feed from late April (in the @ stream). (If those bits go missing, I've copies.) Additional documentation available.
This entry was originally posted at http://sanacrow.dreamwidth.org/2825.html.
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01:18 pm
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'Allo
As part of the online interaction revamp, instead of having a journal here for this and notes over there for that, everything is getting consolidated to be easier to keep up with and make interlinks with. So.... the greatest majority of what ends up here will be crossposted from Dreamwidth. For now, at least, comments will be enabled on both sites. That may change in the future. I am also Sanacrow on Dreamwidth, and on InsaneJournal, though I seldom log into IJ right now. I am also MisCorbae on FetLife and in a couple of other places.
I believe that civility is important and that nice matters. However, I believe that the old hospitality standards are as binding on guest as on host, and that I'm entitled to speak my mind in my own virtual living room. And I don't believe in coddling lies, delusions, willful ignorance or stupidity. If you don't like it... you can't have any. Since you found your way in, you should be more than capable of finding your way out.
The majority of stuff here is friends-locked. There are also filters so that I can combine what used to be several spaces and resources into a consolidated "system". Anything in a public post may be linked to, shared or forwarded without asking permission (although I *do* expect that what I've written (or any other material here) will be appropriately credited). If something is locked, please ask before sharing. The answer will probably be yes, but there are some things that are very sensitive, and they're not always the things that might be easily guessed to be so.
The main categories I expect to talk/write about for the next while (and the basic filters I expect to use to do so) are:
Witchy: Craft, pagan stuff, related folklore, coven/group stuff and personal journeys.
Med/Dis: Medical stuff, disability issues (mine and "in general") and related whining and ranting.
Gender: Trans and intersex (and related) stuff, as well as processing related to the future TransSelves project.
Kink: Butch/Femme stuff, bdsm stuff, power exchange relationships and other flavors of interesting things.
Hypno/Psych: Ramblings about current studies (both clinical and recreational sides), intern-type work, and things related to research for my thesis and other relating writing/research projects. This will probably be slanted heavily toward trauma issues relating to multiplicity and dissociative disorders since that’s the focus of my major project. There will probably also be some overlap with the Gender stuff since that’s my secondary project and one day (hopefully) will be a major part of my practice.
Project Scattershot: Stuff relating to the many things I’m looking at lining up to create various income streams in order to break out of the office grind that’s not going to be sustainable for me long-term. Includes TwaCorbies (Bright Vision and Mistress Corbae), the potential Rootwork services, Lillimae’s Lotions, and whatever else comes up.
You can comment here to let me know which of these categories you are interested in. Eventually I'll set up a nice poll in another post to make it easier... but for now, this works. If you have questions you'd rather not post here, you can drop me a message at the link on my profile.
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12:29 pm
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Note...
Dear new counterperson at Arby's:
When I order my food without certain items on it, especially if I make a note of telling you that there is a health issue involved, it is not funny to hide those items mixed into the bottom of my food so that I don't see them when I check where such items usually are.
When I am so specific with my order it is because I do not wish to consume foods that will cause me physical pain and other less-pleasant side effects that end up with me missing work and hating life in general. I do not have the luxury of a job with benefits, so when your "jokes" make me sick, you are also taking money directly out of my pocket in addition to the expenses you create for medications I will need to counteract your fun.
I don't have a lot of wiggle-room financially, and I choose not to give my money to places that endanger my health and livelihood. In other words, I will be taking my business elsewhere. And I will be letting your manager know exactly why.
This entry was originally posted at http://sanacrow.dreamwidth.org/2270.html. There are  comments there.
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10:32 pm
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I may not always think Safe, Sane and Consensual are the best blanket buzzwords*... but keeping your brain with you at all times is a good guideline for newer folks no matter WHAT community you're sticking your toe into. (And when it comes time to let the brain dive into the game at hand... make sure you've already used that brain in considering who you're trusting your safety and your sanity to while you are otherwise occupied.)
Jet has some other great gems (thimky stuff as well as erotica and other bits) at her website at A Sliver of Moonlight. The exchanges in the Newsgroup Natterings section can be quite thought-provoking for newer folks as well as those that have been around for awhile.
*Or at least not without some significant conversation about what SSC means to the people involved here and now thinking about this particular game, since there's a whole world of difference between some folk's definitions and in the middle of an intense -whatever- is not the time to discover that your partner's definitions are drastically different from yours.
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08:40 am
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SHINY!!!
It's presciousssss.....
Elisem's opened the Shiny Clearance Sale!!
And the Beads of the Month listings are up for next year!!
YEA!!
This entry was originally posted at http://sanacrow.dreamwidth.org/1954.html. There are  comments there.
Tags: shiny
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02:19 pm
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QOTD +
Still banging head on desk repeatedly while trying to get a computer *reliably* working for consistent net access and various other projects... but for now...
On the Butch/Femme dance, but fitting other queerdoms as well:
It is quite a spectacle, really, once one sees it, these humans so devoted to dressing up and acting out... the theory that there are two sharply distinct sexes and never the twain shall overlap or be confused or conflated... marking a distinction between two sexes as though their lives depended on it. It is amazing that homosexuals and lesbians are mocked and judged for dressing in "butch-femme drag", for nobody goes about in full public view as though decked out in butch and femme drag as much as respectable heteronormatives when they are dressed up to go out in the evening, or to go to church, or to go to the office. Critics of queers' styles ought to look at themselves in the mirror on their way out for a night on the town to see who's really in drag. The answer is, everybody is. Perhaps the main difference between heteronormatives and queers is that when queers go forth, as butch, femme or anything in between, they know they are engaged in a gender theater. Heteronormatives usually are taking it all perfectly seriously, thinking they are in the real world, thinking they *are* the real world. (Marilyn Frye)
This entry was originally posted at http://sanacrow.dreamwidth.org/1453.html. There are  comments there.
Tags: qotd
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10:33 am
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That "30 Things" meme...
( Really long whiny-bitchy rambling... )
Find out more about National Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week and the 5-day free virtual conference with 20 speakers Sept 14-18, 2009 at www.invisibleillness.com
This entry originally posted at http://sanacrow.dreamwidth.org/1037.html. There are  comments there.
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12:47 am
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Oh hai.
I have a new favorite paragraph:
Oh my fucking GOD, fandom, I love you SO HARD right now! Seriously! I want to make sweet, sweet, filthy dirty love to you. I want to buy you flowers. I want to take you to watch the original Star Wars trilogy back-to-back and flick popcorn off the balcony with you. I want to surprise you with a weekend in Paris, and kiss you breathless on top of the Eiffel Tower. I want to tickle you until you're reduced to a wriggling mass of helpless giggles, and end up kicking me in the head by accident. I want to show you my favourite vid of 3 adorable British twinks fucking on Youporn, and then write fanfic about them with you, because they are just so fucking adorable, and also hot, and they deserve a fandom. I want to bake you a cake using my mother's recipe, and pipe wobbly chocolate love hearts on the icing, and spangle it with wee silver balls, and let you lick out the bowl. (By which I do mean porn.) I want to buy you that lovely technological bauble from the Mac shop that you couldn't justify spending the money on, and get it inscribed with some stupid shared joke that will crack your shit up. I want to give you a back rub. I want to present you with your favourite comic along with your morning coffee. I want to sit quietly reading fanfic while you check your email across the room, and message you when you're close enough to throw a balled-up pair of socks at. I want to read you your favourite childhood story until you slide into sleep. I want to hold your fucking HAND.
It's from this post by ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) pandarus.
If you don't have the context of survey!fail, there's been plenty of absolute awesome (and bits of wangst) posted all over fandom, with some of the best gathered at linkspam.
Short version: Fandom ROCKS.
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05:44 pm
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Link foo?
What's in a name? Everything Intersex: Why naming matters
"What is at stake when it comes to intersex clearly goes deeper than language. Intersex is about culture, human rights, and quite literally, saving lives. No matter who you talk to, the intentions on all sides of the intersex/DSD controversy are good: to end unnecessary medical treatments or to disallow discrimination based on physical variation or to prevent “normalization” of people who, for whatever reason, don’t meet the narrow confines of acceptable male-female and boy-girl. Everyone is just trying to find the right word, the strongest way to say stop. The challenge is to make sure no one is hurt along the way."
Referenced in the above, and a damn good piece:
The Tyranny of the Esthetic: Surgery's Most Intimate Violation
Written in 1998, the numbers haven't changed -- still, every day in this country, five children have healthy sexual organs surgically altered or removed just to make their parents or their doctors more comfortable.
The Complete Alphabet: Moving beyond ABC towards healthy and safe sexuality for all
Epiphany and George Sodini
Finally grokking "You're polyamorous? That's so greedy!"
Racism, Right-Wing Rage and the Politics of White Nostalgia
CSI Myths: The Shaky Science Behind Forensics
(The linked sidebar "The Truth About 4 Common Forensics Methods" is well worth a gander, as well.)
Conan O'Brian attacks trans women
Believers invest in the Gospel of Getting Rich
More garbage from the Prosperity Gospel folks, who are telling their followers that if they're worried about money, they should just send more to worthy causes... like the Prosperity Gospel preachers. Shhh. It's not a MLM scheme - it's the Word of God!
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03:53 pm
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oops...
Forgot to include these two:
The real US healthcare issue: compassion deficiency
"... The healthcare debate has revealed that Americans suffer from a compassion deficiency. Many of us would prefer that our fellow citizens go without medical care rather than make even the slightest of sacrifices. ..."
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O, reason not the need
"... And I really don't think you should say that people who are already working in hard and ill-paid jobs just to cover food and shelter should be working more hours or second jobs in order to fund health insurance. Partly because I strongly suspect that to make food and shelter they're already working as hard as they can (quite probably to the detriment of their health)..."
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02:54 pm
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A small dose of link-suey
Yea! Putting the responsibility where it belongs
WTFF??? I'm sorry, but we'll need to see your genitals
And an "a-ha" moment about particular folks' reactions: That does not mean what you think it means
"... I finally grokked what was going on after some thought. It's something I've always understood on a subconscious level, but never really articulated before. It's something along the lines of: how dare I use these people's own words and attitudes against them? How dare I, in public, on well-read blogs and in the company of influential and intelligent people, repeat what they have said or written and expose it for the crap it really is? ..."
Here's some really good links about some of the problems with that whole "colorblind" approach to racism
Oh, and there's a new Disney netbook coming out - in magical blue or princess pink - that's a rebrand of the same box, at the same price, as the Asus Eee I've been looking at. ::Insert squee here::
And now... back to the daily schlog, and a vain attempt to make the middle of a construction zone ready for meetings tomorrow.
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03:37 pm
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MemeBoots
| You Are Cowboy Boots |  You are incredibly down to earth and happy with yourself. You don't pretend to be someone else.
You also tend to be very practical. You don't really have a lot of room for fluff in your life.
You are a very honest and direct person. You will give anyone a straight answer, even if it's a bit uncomfortable.
While you're quite sensible, you always like a little bit of flash in your life. You don't overdo it, but you do like turning heads. |
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03:43 pm
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Okay then...
Folks, if I really was interested in what Lynda said day-to-day, I would have friended her journal so it'd show up on my reading pages. Since she's NOT on my flist, you might figure that I'm not all that interested in keeping up with her journal. You really don't need to keep "letting me know" that she's blathering about me again.
But since so many folks want to play busy-bees, yeah that *is* me she's quoting in that post. I even recognize the quote - it's from the C&R list back in 2002. (PDFs of the archives are here. It's post 147. Yeah, I usually keep track of what I write - and when and where. And while there are a few things out there that I'm not proud of - and a few that make me downright wince - I'm plenty willing to own up that I said 'em.)
No, she's never talked to me about any of this. She's never talked to me at all - about anything. What you've seen on the various lists is pretty much the extent of our exchanges. So much for all that supposed effort to "understand me".
You're all kinda out of luck if you want me to rant about any of it, though. I'm really kinda amused. Plenty of folks are probably going to be rather shocked that *I never discuss my ethics or standards of behavior*. Wow. *I've even been known to change my opinions.* How horrible! (I damn sure hope I've learned a few things and changed an opinion or dozen over the years!!)
I'm a bit baffled about the whole "self-enrichment" thing... but hey, whatever. I know what's important to me. And the people who actually work with me - or even interact with me regularly - are pretty aware of where my priorities are, too. But, really... what's any of this to folks who don't interact with me and flat out don't like me, anyways? Why would they even care?
Edited to add: Robin pointed out that I was a bit sharp, and it was unclear who I was angry towards. It's toward particular folks who I don't really know, who are NOT on my flist, and who seem to mostly be interested in provoking yet more dwama. I don't need pokes that amount to "diddya see what she *did*... what 'cha gonna do about it, huh, huh?". Folks who don't have anything better to do than play poke-the-witch need to get a hobby. Or a life. Whatever. Just go away.
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08:17 am
![[User Picture]](http://l-userpic.livejournal.com/57416824/1216928) [Link] | ...if you set yourself against the laws of man you are diametrically opposed to Wiccan ethics and would not be considered Proper. Doing anything that would warrant the attention of law enforcement would NOT be Proper no matter what the cause or reason.
:::boggle::
Compound :::boggle::: that said person claims - stridently - on a local list that all Lexies have these same standards. (Yes, they are 2* Lexie. That's a whole other ::boggle::.)
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11:28 am
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The problem is the frame...
We don't need to change folk's minds so much as we need to change the frame of our arguement.
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01:06 pm
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Sheeples R Us
Memeage stolen from Everyone - I are a lemming ...
If you saw ME in a police car, what would you think I'd been arrested for?
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03:13 pm
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WTF? ::giggle::
Received today:
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I just sent a post to Yyyy and she said it was to harsh to be posted, well I just sent Xxxxxx a little note and cut her a new ass! Here's yours! you didn't even have the fucking guts to say anything on your own other than "Exactly, Xxxxxx. Well said. You and that socially retarded bitch have no fucking clue, you bring your fat ass to group and sit there with your all knowing Sana thinking somebody would ever want to fucking look at either one of you, you have to be into swapping out partners just to have sex! You sick bitches!! You to me are nothing but a fucking monkey as in Monkey See Monkey do you are a joke look in the mirror next time you try to put your face on and get a clue YOUR UGLY AND all the fucking makeup in the world can't help that!!! I tell you what the next time you and Sana have sex call me because I have never seen two Grizzle bears mate. HA! One other thing you do not want to fuck with me bitch I have no time for people like you! I hope you get this!
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Note: this was *not* sent by an 8th grader. She's at least my age, if not older.
I can't stop giggling. We're ::mumble:: years old and we're supposed to be heartbroken by "you're ugly"?? OMG! I'm so scared. A mean transgirl doesn't like me! ::guffaw::
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01:55 pm
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Says Sister Unity...
It was recorded before the election, but it's still right on...
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08:54 pm
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Blub alert
Read this.
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10:52 pm
[Link] | 1. Stop talking about politics for a moment or two.
2. Post a reasonably-sized picture in your LJ, NOT under a cut tag, of something pleasant, such as an adorable kitten, or a fluffy white cloud, or a bottle of booze. Something that has NOTHING TO DO WITH POLITICS.
3. Include these instructions, and share the love.
(my favorite wading spot)
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