(I can't get to DreamWidth from work, but can get here... grrr.)
Sent to a list currently discussing the latest Feri Drama:
The way I look at it is that PEOPLE are bound by oaths, not material. Different lines have different boundaries. Different lines have different ways of interpreting oaths and obligations. To my way of thinking, it doesn't matter whether anyone else talks or writes about something that I consider either private or oathbound, I am still bound by _MY_ obligations and honor.
If at some point one becomes aware that particular aspects of material are considered private by some, then it is only polite to refrain from those discussions in public situations, or at least to tread VERY carefully in those areas - the boundaries of those we respect deserve respect, even if those are not our own boundaries.
I belong to a Trad/line related to Feri that has oathbound material that certainly won't fit on a postcard -- although the greatest amount of "stuff" isn't considered oathbound so much as... private. Family stuff. It's not shared because it's *secret*, but because, like a personal diary, it can't be shared without sharing a bit of your own heart and soul - parts that are deep and dear and not for general consumption.
The "oathbound" lore and material I inherited from my training coven is what is handed down as (the 'writable' part of) the core material of our Family. I consider some of the notes, associated material and reference bits that came with that core of material to be Very Important in its own way, and I treat it with the same respect.
I also have journals, diaries, reference notebooks, files of loose papers, photocopies of workshop notes, and tons of other material. Some of that is also Very Important to me - in particular my own journals and commentaries that are strongly influenced by material and lore that various folks have shared with me. (I'm a packrat, and I tend to go off on research 'projects' for months or years at a time. I've also been following this pattern for a couple of decades. Ergo, I have shelves and filing cabinets and boxes full of random, useful and odd Stuph.)
General stuff I don't have a problem with sharing. Material that others I respect consider private or oathbound, I won't knowingly share outside of the circumstances given by the person who shared it with me. Nothing beyond that small core of inherited material do I really consider "oathbound". However *I* am oathbound to honor what I have been given, to respect and honor the work and lore of my Kin, and to follow particular guidelines when dealing with not-Kin (or not-yet-Kin).
A related bit is material that can be / is shared as part of ritual, but isn't shared outside a ritual context. There is a big difference between first encountering a bit of lore or liturgy as part of an immersive ritual experience, and first seeing those same words as simply ink on a page or pixels on a screen. If something is first experienced as a living, breathing element of a Working Circle, every time those elements are seen - even as "mere" words on a page - a portion of that first encounter will always be a part of them, they will always have that direct connection to their full context, with juicy layers and depths open to be plumbed. This isn't often the case if those same elements are first experienced outside of their context. If I respect and value those I work with (and I shouldn't be working with anyone I don't!), I want them to have a full, juicy first experience of this lore. And an important part of creating that optimum experience is HOW things are shared as much as WHAT is shared and WHEN.
Another reason for being careful about how and with who particular things are shared is that we work with real critters that have a history of making chewtoys out of folks that catch their eye that they have no obligations for or to. If I bring someone to their attention (or give out information that enables someone to put the equivalent of a "lunch here" sign over their head) and that someone doesn't deal well with the results of having caught the curiosity of these critters, then I am at least partially responsible for any damage that comes to them.
To me, being cautious and careful with lore and other material isn't hiding "the Mysteries" (and there's a rant in those scare quotes somewhere...) or keeping secrets of the universe locked up tight. Universal Mysteries are out there for folks who go looking, no particular lore-set required.
I keep much lore and other material close because I value honor and trust. Because I honor and respect those who have walked this path before me, and because I honor and respect those who walk this path with me now. I am in awe of what has been shared with me, and cherish the trust that I have been gifted with, as I know the bits of my own heart and soul that have been shared are treasured. It's part of the bond we share, the intimacy of close, deep Work, and it's part of what makes us Family.